Boundaries In Connections

For years I struggled with boundaries trying to make everyone around me happy. Meanwhile in doing this I was just weighing myself down and creating unhappiness within myself and in my life around me. In my opinion you literally can't please everyone and yourself it's impossible. I'm finally at the point in my life where I'm learning that when you remain in a people pleasing energy you are not operating in your own authenticity. At some point in our lives, we need to focus on our own needs, expectations, boundaries, and what brings us joy. Of course, in doing so you have to be willing to lose people and environments that may seem comfortable for you. For me I know this is why I stayed in the people pleasing energy for so long and in situations that no longer served me or my highest good. Comfort, general fear of change and also the fear of the unknown, and the connections I thought I couldn't walk away from not just romantically but platonic also because of emotional ties and history. I noticed as I knew I wanted more for myself my views of people changed, my mindset changed, the conflicts started taking place because people no longer benefited from my energy or me as an individual because the boundaries, I set wouldn't allow it. In doing this it helped guide me on my path to see who aligned with me and who had the best intentions for me the ones that didn't slowly started falling out of my life or I removed them. People will guilt trip you or push you into feeling your boundaries and expectations are unrealistic. Or that your feelings aren't worth being validated and respected. In reality those who try to make you feel like that are just incapable of meeting those expectations or unwilling to reciprocate what you're willing to do because it requires effort, understanding, and might not always benefit them in the way they are wanting. Regardless of how others feel if you're standards and expectations match what you're willing and capable of reciprocating you are NOT being unrealistic. You are learning and understanding your worth and not settling for less than that because people will only do what you allow. If you don't stand on business when it comes to you nobody else will.